Fitness for Frazzled Moms
In the spirit of the “no money and no time” theme here at Making Bricks, we’re going to multi-task our way to better health.
I have actually almost always double-teamed my fitness routine with another essential activity, like making money. That’s why for many years I ran a little dog walking and pet sitting business. It was great when I lived in Northern California (Oakland, but it counts) and could hike some excellent seaside cliffs and forested mountain trails with a pack of crazy dogs, pretty much every day.
But now I have different responsibilities. Now I have kids and about ten different jobs. It’s your basic constant-running-on-no-sleep situation. A hell of a lot of it is driving, and a lot of it in front of a computer. Then there’s slumped-on-the-lid-of-a-training-potty while the kids are in the bath. In between, we try to have the meaningful experiences.
Parenting young children is one of those things that is so draining that you may feel as if you ran a marathon, when in fact you spent much of the day issuing directives from the fetal position.
So how to double-team fitness and parenting young children?
There are a lot of obvious solutions to the fitness problem, including just getting outside and playing with your kids. Walking to the store instead of driving. Playing ball, or Frisbee, or going swimming. But it can still be hard, especially in the dead of winter, to make this happen on a regular-enough basis. We are often managing hectic schedules that are plotted down to the last minute.
Following are just a few ways to get your “kicks” in fits and spurts throughout the day.
Challenge yourself & your kids.
Try saying this (or something else age appropriate) to your children: “Mommy is going to see if she can do sit-ups until you run to your room, pick out a clean shirt, and come back here.” Kids love a challenge, and wanting to see if you’re still doing sit-ups can help expedite their task. So go ahead and keep doing sit-ups until they report back or it becomes obvious that they are never going to.
Encourage their “know-it-all-ism.”
Kids think they know it all. As parents, we spend a lot of time praising them for learning new things, but also making sure they understand how much is left to learn. But when trying to incorporate fitness into a crammed schedule, why not just let them believe they are experts? My son saw me doing some impromptu aerobics one day and said, “I know all about exercise. I’m the best at it. Look, Mommy!” What followed was a highly silly routine devised by him, where each move got weirder and more convoluted. But I didn’t care. We both got our bodies moving and we laughed a lot, too.
Whenever you get that rising rage that comes from being pushed just a bit too far by your kids, instead of screaming, work it out with say, 10-15 roundhouse kicks. I’ve found that it cuts the tension quite a bit and also resets the kids’ attention spans.
Fitness for Frazzled Moms probably won’t yield those rock-hard abs we envy in celebrities and the childless. But it can help keep us connected to our own bodies during those grueling years when nurturing our children’s health and development takes over everything else.
Rather than struggling to carve out time to exercise alone, adding 10 minutes of cardio or strength-building to a couple of activities you are already doing is a stress-free alternative.
I’ve found I have better energy and a slightly slimmer waist after a month of exercise multi-tasking. But I still have a long way to go in my overall mission for health, so I can’t wait to see what my son’s got planned for us next.
Best Life Tip #1: Exploit Your Rich Friends
No seriously, exploit your rich friends. But in the nicest way possible. Here are a couple of examples to explain what I mean.
My sister has been nanny to a wonderful family for many years, and somewhere along the line, it became tradition for this family to gift her with theater tickets. So at every birthday and Christmas she gets a pair to some fabulous show she’s always wanted to see (or see again).
I sometimes get lucky enough to be her +1, and I’ve got to say, there’s nothing like an afternoon at the theater to lift your spirits and give you the strength to carry your burdens onward. Plus, theater today is perfect for the harried and undergroomed mom–formal attire is no longer required, and available subject matter runs the gamut from cheerleading to mental illness. There’s something for every taste.
Letting your more affluent friends know that you are really interested in the theater, or nice restaurants, or live concerts gives them easy go-to ideas for gifting occasions, and you the opportunity to soak up culture you might otherwise miss. Ask for experiences rather than things; they don’t depreciate in value, and can often be shared.
Obviously there’s a line between expressing your cultural interests and grubbing for gifts. But it never hurts to say out loud, “You know, I’ve always wanted to do [fill in the blank].” As long as there’s a mutual bond of affection between you that lasts all year long, your friends shouldn’t hear this as greed.
My second example has to do with grandparents that really want to do something for your kids, even if they don’t need any more stuff. My kids are lucky enough to spend one night a week with my moms, and during that time they often want to do something special. It can be as simple as a trip to the playground, or as extravagant as a trip to San Diego. But when I let the moms know that I struggled to keep up with the kids’ haircuts, they quietly took it on. Now every six weeks or so, I’m surprised when two gorgeously coiffed boys come home from Grandma Camp.
Two boys’ haircuts are a relatively small outlay for a couple who is otherwise financially stable, but it makes a huge difference to our bottom line. Every “one less thing” makes a difference when you’re working toward financial freedom.
In this same vein, go ahead and say “diapers” when someone asks what your one-year-old wants for her birthday.
When you give freely of your time and affection–those things that cannot be bought–and speak openly about both your dreams and your reality, you’ll find that the people who love you want to help you get closer to living your best life.
Easy Ways To Shoot Great Vacation Footage
Shooting home video while on vacation is a valuable investment in preserving your precious memories, one that will only increase in value as time marches on. But raw footage alone is not very accessible to other viewers, especially if it is not sufficient to tell the whole story. The following tips will help you be aware of future editing needs while you are enjoying those special moments that will never happen again.
Get your establishing shots right away.
The condo or hotel room is never going to look as nice as when you first get there. Take a little tour with your camera before bringing in luggage. Taking your camera along as you first explore the immediate surroundings is helpful, too. You’ll want to take a look at everything, and you won’t be on your way to an activity yet.
Set up a stage.
You can make one corner of your lodging your “confessional” area by arranging lighting, playing with camera angles, and keeping it clear of clutter. Take a little time every day to have all the members of your party sit and talk about the day’s highlights. The consistent, clean background will make editing easier and your final movie more polished.
Make sure everyone has equal camera time.
That means you, Mr. or Ms. Videographer. You don’t want it to seem later like only your disembodied voice participated in the vacation. If you feel the urge to narrate, hand the camera over to someone else and get in the shot.
Keep the shot dynamic, short and tight.
Your footage will be more interesting if you zoom in and out as the action changes. Wide, establishing shots are good, but close-ups are more personal and help viewers feel the mood. Don’t get hung up on keeping whole bodies in the frame, as you’ll lose the nuances of facial expression. Cut after any noteworthy moment so that those gems don’t get buried in the middle of long stretches of footage.
Think about the set-up
Any television show has to set up the action before it happens, right? So take the time to film members of your party on the phone, arranging a tour or outing. Or film the “getting out the door” stuff, with periodic checks on a clock. Capturing the work behind the play sets the scene and keeps viewers interested in what comes next.
Embrace the bloopers
Candid moments are great not only for capping individual scenes in your movie, but a “blooper reel” running beside the credits of your movie, or as a separate bonus feature, is a really fun touch for viewers.
Prerequisite: Video camera. Most digital cameras shoot video, too.